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Sexting is an underrated art and sometimes a form of foreplay that can be super fun and hot when done correctly. (And no, we’re not talking about unsolicited dick pics.) Sexting, with enthusiastic consent, is a great way to spice up your relationship, get to know your partner on a deeper level, and explore both of your sexual fantasies.
If you’ve ever been in a long-distance relationship, we bet you know a thing or two about sending a spicy text. However, whether you’re sexting your partner, FWB, or Tinder hookup, sexting is a great way to break the ice, especially if you’re shy about sex or have trouble telling your partner what you want in the bedroom.
No matter where you are on the sexting scale, we’re here to help ease your nerves and even give you some examples that range from beginner to full-out sexpert. Here’s how to start a healthy sexting relationship with your partner(s), on your own time and terms.
Ask for Consent
The first step, always, is getting clear consent from your partner. Remember, if it’s not a “hell yes,” it’s a “no.” Never assume that someone wants a picture or a sexually explicit text from you, and don’t pressure someone who isn’t comfortable with the activity. Always ask your recipient if they are okay with you sexting them. Ask yourself if you trust said person enough to sext them. Set boundaries and learn theirs. Not everyone wants a “u up?” text at three a.m. The bottom line is, don’t send someone an unsolicited text/picture unless you know they are 100% excited about it.
Start Simple!
Let’s get sexty! Decide you’re sexting style, but don’t overthink it. Flirty, fun, raunchy, or a little bit of everything? Skip the “What are you wearing rn?” text and try these instead. Your first sext can be as simple as:
- “I was thinking about you today.”
- “I had a sexy dream about you last night & I can’t stop thinking about it.”
Or you can ask your partner questions, like:
- “What was your favorite thing we did the other night?”
- “What’s your favorite part of my body?”
These will get the ball rolling, trust us. These texts let your partner know that you’ve been thinking about them and that you can’t stop. It’s always best to start with subtle, suggestive messages to gauge how your partner is feeling/what they’re thinking, especially if this is your first time sexting them.
Finding Your Flow
Sexting is like the ultimate slow burn; it’s all on your time. If you don’t respond, the sexting session ends. So don’t feel overwhelmed. Take your time and ease yourself into some *spicier* texts. Plus, the longer the sesh, the hotter and heavier your in-person intimacy will be the next time you see them. Don’t be afraid to let loose and tell your partner what you really want. Let your imagination run wild! Here are some HAWT texts that will take your sexting game from 0-100 real quick:
- “You make me 🥵💦“
- “What would you do to me if you were here right now?”
BTW, don’t be afraid to use emojis, in moderation. Want to really get your partner excited? Make your sexts personal. Think about a hot time you and your partner recently had and go from there. Like these:
- “I can’t stop thinking about when you…”
- “I want you to watch me when…”
Don’t be afraid to tell your partner exactly what’s on your mind. They’ll love it. The more you practice, the better you’ll get, so don’t be discouraged if you feel awkward your first time around.
25 Sexting Ideas You Can Use Right Now
Still feeling shy and unsure of what to say? We’ve got you covered. Here are some sext examples you can send to your partner right now or use for inspiration. You’re welcome.
- “I want you.”
- “It’s too bad you aren’t here right now…“
- “You make me so wet. 💦”
- “I want to make you feel good.”
- “Bring the handcuffs…”
- “I love it when you…”
- “I can’t get last night out of my mind.”
- “I just got out of the shower. Want to see?”
- “I want to taste you. 👅“
- “You looked amazing last night.”
- “I love it when you say my name.”
- “The anticipation is killing me.”
- “Should we try roleplaying as _____ tn?”
- “What’s a sexual fantasy of yours?”
- “Do you like it when I…?”
- “I love every part of you.”
- “You feel so good. 🍆“
- “Good morning, sweet cheeks. 🍑”
- “I want you to spank me.”
- “I’m touching myself right now and thinking about you.“
- “Good girl.”
- “You’re such a DILF”
- “I’m not wearing any underwear.”
- “I love your body.”
- “Tell me more.”
Happy Sexting!
Remember, sexting is supposed to be a fun way for you and your partner to build intimacy. Don’t overthink it! Technically, you could be doing chores or eating junk food in bed (we’ve all been there) while sexting your partner, and they’d never know. Anyone can master the art of sexting with a bit of confidence and overall sexting etiquette. Check out our Guide to Consent and 10 Ways to Be More Sex Positive for more exciting sex tips.
